PROCRASTINATION — By Cynthia De Boer

LOOKING INWARD

It’s hard to fix a problem that you can’t describe. So exactly what is procrastination?

Wikipedia states that procrastination refers to the counterproductive deferment of actions or tasks to a later time.  Psychologists often cite such behavior as a mechanism for coping with the anxiety associated with starting, or completing any task.  Others say it’s just trying to avoid the inevitable by jumping from one idea to another.  So, how important is it really to do everything right now?  Well, that depends on what the task is.

I am personally a list person.  It’s how I stay organized.  My list begins with the most important tasks, and descends in order of importance.  Through these lists I have discovered quite a lot about myself.  My lists often have things I to do for others at the top, with time restrictions being the sole motivator that moves one task ahead of another.  I am a people pleaser and there’s nothing wrong with that as long as I take care of me first, so I can be there for others.

I have also learned that there are quite a few things that really don’t deserve a place on my list, or in my life for that matter.  There is nothing like seeing your life in black and white.  I have discovered that through society’s expectations and others around me, I put too many tasks on my daily lists.  I once heard the phrase, “We are human beings, not human doings.”  So why do we have to be doing something all the time?  Again, I feel it is society’s image of a successful person, equating being busy with being successful.  Unfortunately that is not often the case.  Most people working well into the night on the next day’s deadlines are those guilty of arranging their comic book collection instead of leisurely working toward their necessary dead line.

I believe the reason for all this frustration is the dreaded ‘R’ word—RESPONSIBILITY!  We need to take responsibility for our ourselves, our belongings, and let the rest go.  By doing this we simplify our lives and free up our time. We aren’t robotic.  We are mortal beings, blessed to live in this beautiful world, but what’s the use if we never get to enjoy it.  Now if this sounds like a quick fix, believe me, it’s not.  Like anything worthwhile, it’s takes effort and conscious objectivity when examining your daily list of chores.  Is it truly your responsibility to do everything on that list or is it someone else’s?  Only you can decide.

Time is our only non-replaceable commodity—spend yours wisely!

 

Author’s Note:  Getting a handle on procrastination will ease stress, and the related issues it creates.  I hope this helps.  Photos designed for this story.  Original Story Date:  March 8, 2010

 

 

6 Comments

  • Rickey Posted May 4, 2013 2:53 pm

    I am a procrastinator for sure. I have no list except for what I need at the store so I don’t have to go back. This is good and you describe yourself perfectly. You do make others a top priority and that is what I love about you.

    • Cynthia De Boer Posted May 5, 2013 4:10 pm

      Thank you, you’re so kind, I love you too!!!

  • BERNICE COOK Posted May 14, 2013 1:52 am

    You describe yourself to T Cyndi. You have always done too much for others and not enough for yourself. You are an amazing lady and I am so proud of you ! As I know your Mother would be and your Father is. I love you. Mrs. C

    • Cynthia De Boer Posted May 14, 2013 4:41 am

      Thank you Mrs. C. I love you too, and thank you for taking the time to read and comment. It means so much to me.

  • Penny Rea Posted May 17, 2013 6:50 am

    Wonderful story! Some days I am a list person and some day’s I am not as you well know. I am working on becoming a little more organized and list prepared because it makes your life so much more productive. You have always been an organized individual even as a child you knew right where things were kept and what we were going to play the next day. If we were going to play with the easy bake oven for instance you made sure we had the ingredients and supplies the day before….You were like this mini adult in a kids body…..I think it is an awesome trait to have. Otherwise we just waste our time. Love you!

    • Cynthia De Boer Posted May 18, 2013 12:12 am

      Everyone always told me I was never a kid, even Mom and Dad. I have always appreciated life so much and I want to spend every moment — not waste it. I guess that comes from coming into this world with a lot of health issues. There’s always an UP side:) Love you too!

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